But, He Was 6'2"

What happens when chemistry speaks louder than clarity?

In But, He Was 6’2”, R. M. Bergen examines the quiet bargains we make with ourselves when we want love to work—especially when attraction, hope, and good intentions blur our judgment. Through a series of sharp, self-aware essays, she unpacks modern dating misfires: emotional unavailability dressed up as mystery, inconsistency mistaken for excitement, and the subtle ways we learn to excuse what doesn’t sit right.

This is not a dating guide, nor a manifesto about men. It’s a thoughtful, often funny reckoning with the stories we tell ourselves—about potential, timing, chemistry, and why “but he was tall” sometimes feels like reason enough to stay.

With clarity, compassion, and a refreshingly unpreachy voice, Bergen reflects on desire, discernment, and the moments we look back on and think, I knew better. These essays are for anyone who has ignored a red flag because it was easier to hope than to walk away—and for those learning to trust themselves again.

Honest, wry, and quietly devastating, But, He Was 6’2” is a reminder that attraction isn’t insight—and clarity, once found, is worth listening to.